We often speak different languages than our partner when it comes to romance. Men tend to be visually oriented, while women tend to be more multi-sensory, meaning that they often need more of their senses engaged to feel aroused.

Becoming aware of how your senses help turn you on – and knowing the same about your partner – gives you the power to use senses to your advantage, enhancing the desire and intimacy in your relationship.

Mostly As? Your Sensory Love Language is Touch. You are most turned on by touching and being touched. You may want to learn some sensual massage techniques with your partner or let them know that it’s easier for you to get in the mood when they approach you with loving caresses.

Mostly Bs? Your Sensory Love Language is Smell. Your big needle mover is scent, whether it’s the natural musk of your partner or freshly cut flowers. Let your partner know if they need to be fresh out of the shower when they come to you, or perhaps all sweaty and musky after a jog. Buy them some essential oils or a scent you love to spice things up on date night.

Mostly Cs? Your Sensory Love Language is Hearing. You receive your sexual cues through sound. Your partner whispering in your ear, or telling you something sexy. Mood music. Try coming up with a sexy soundtrack that you can play when you want to get in the mood. And make sure you tell your partner how much you love the sound of their voice when things are starting to heat up.

Mostly Ds? Your Sensory Love Language is Sight. You get the most bang for your buck out of what you see right in front of you. That could mean a romantic date watching the sunset, fresh cut flowers by the bedside, or your partner taking the extra effort to look nice for you.

Mixing it up: Many women are turned on by a combination of senses. If this is you, mix it up! It just means you have more to draw from to get you in the mood.

Whatever your sensory love language is, let your partner know…and make sure to find out what theirs is too! You’ll both be so much happier and fulfilled when you’re speaking each others’ language…it’s a great way to keep things exciting for years to come.